Abandonment And Lost Motivation

The greatest need is that of companionship. Among others, one reason is that if we are in need and alone, who will be there to take care of us.

In many cultures, people live their life to marry and have many children so that there will be someone there to take care of them when they are old, and who can you trust more than your own children. Raising a family is not out of love as the main motivating factor, it is out of fear of the future of old age, illness, poverty, etc.

If our basic need is to have someone we can trust to be there for us, then if we get abandoned, that is very painful as it not only touches the moment and circumstances of being let down and alone, but the subconscious fears of the Inevitable future of old age.

In our modern society we have come to understand that we have to take care of ourselves but yet we still suffer the feelings of abandonment from; our family, friends, job, government, everyone.

National Geographic magazine is a highly reputable and respected source of reliable information. Change one letter and the truth of what they are comes out, refutable. The November 2017 issue has the cover story entitled; “The Search for Happiness” by Dan Buettner, author of The Blue Zones of Happiness, a New York Times best seller.

The article shows a map of the world with ratings on each country of its level of happiness based on a scale included in the map.

One of the countries that is rated as the highest achievable level on the happiness scale, yes, meaning that the people in this country are happier than almost all other countries in the world is, believe it or not, Somalia.


Yes, Somalia, also known in many other studies and articles as; “The worst place in the world”

A google search, if you did not already know about Somalia, will without doubt prove which is correct.

And so we can see that the extent of false information is rampant, but when such an old and highly respected society such as National Geographic can make a cover story with such false information, not vetting the book or author to be factual, then no one can be trusted.

The feelings of abandonment are totally justified. No one will really be there for you, and you certainly cannot trust any bit of information. Our trust has been abandoned and sold out for the sake of making money with a deliberate effort at feeding the public false information.

There are countless examples of governments and the press deliberately feeding the public false information, not to mention the simple mistakes or covert efforts of ill intentioned people.

One needs to know the source of emptiness or sadness which causes a lack of motivation if one wants to fix the problem. It is very difficult to be motivated when there is no one to trust. We walk blindly through this world, attempting new adventures, going to new places, trying new businesses, all based on trusting information, usually to be disappointed.

A website called International Living is replete with false and misleading information about countries all over the world, and having been to 78 countries so far in my travels, I can testify that they probably never left their office.

When we see that there is not a single reliable source, self-preservation kicks in and we become paralyzed with fear. That is expressed in having lost motivation.

Accept that this is a world of lies, and the lies will continue. Discard social media as your option to boredom, and start to take chances with your life. Do things you are scared to do, learn things by your own experience, think objectively and with discernment rather than just believe anything you are told, regardless of who told you.

And most importantly, trust no one. Sometimes even your own eyes and ears can distort the truth when they report what they see and hear to your mind.

The preceding sentence is the key to harmony in life, because 98% of our arguments come from misinterpreting what someone else said and being so sure you heard ‘the truth’.

2 Responses to Abandonment And Lost Motivation

  1. Chris February 14, 2018 at 7:24 pm #

    I don’t want to have kids, but I still have been thinking about it lately, realizing I will probably need someone to help me when I’m very old.

    Those of us who do not want to raise kids, how can we plan to be supported in our old age? I’m 41 now. It feels lonely to think when I’m in my 70’s, 80’s or 90’s I won’t have any real family below me when I’m sick or dying. Even your best friends you couldn’t really ask to help you deal with those things.

    With all the time and money saved by not having kids, there should be some good options for us though? Affording a good rest home? Building a great network of (younger) people who appreciate and care deeply about us? Curious what you think about this, if there is a solution other than kids. Thanks.

    • David Samuel February 15, 2018 at 8:46 am #

      it is a dilemma, but I think the most suitable solution, and that is why it is one of the better industries to invest in now, is retirement villages. they are communities with a minimum age, so only for old people, with all the services and friends you could ever need. so save up to have that as your backup. it may be the happiest years of your life 🙂

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