Are You Really That Bad? Can You Become Better?

This article, with the included ‘medicine’ is for anyone who feels the following:

I am not good enough
There are so many things wrong with me
I am bad
I am hopeless
Why aren’t I as good as other people
Etc.

You get the idea, anyone who feels they are inadequate in any way, and also feels hopeless about changing and becoming a better person.

Indeed it is true, and my saying this truth is why not many people like to follow my school, and why the famous teachers have so many followers, very few of which actually achieve the heights that they want or their teacher says they can reach.

The truth is, you are right, you are not good enough.

Saying; ‘you can be anything you want to be’ is a half truth. Yes, you can change, but only with enough time and effort and sacrifice, which means difficult and painful exercises.

The ‘cure’ for these negative self views has to be taken like antibiotics. If you have a painful infection, the pain will subside after one or two days of taking the medication, however, you must take the entire course of it, for ten days or two weeks, even though you feel much better long before that.

The medicine for a mental malformed self view, or a distorted or defective personality is also mental, meaning, it is thought. But to change thoughts, takes a lot longer than fixing a physical illness. When you accept the challenge, you cannot ask, or expect to know, how long it will take. Your commitment to persist ends on the day you die.

The painful and difficult part of a mental medication, meaning it is thoughts you think and the mental exercise of contemplation and observation rather than a pill, is that in order for it to be effective, you have to accept that your entire view of life and yourself is totally wrong.

The illness is not the negative thoughts, so stopping them is not a cure, because that is like trying to empty a lake while the river keeps flowing in to replenish it. If you dam the river, it will just form a new lake, so that will not work.

The cure is to find and understand the cause of the cause of the cause, right back to the beginning of You, which is when you were conceived.

If the lake dries up, the cause is that the river stopped flowing in to replenish it. But the cause of the river not flowing is that a dam was built at the source of the river which diverted its flow in another direction or stopped it from flowing altogether.

From the moment your mother knew she was pregnant, she already started forming your personality with her own distorted and inadequate view of life, which means, her opinions and mental defects. As soon as your father knew about you, he added his messed up and limited thoughts to continue the malformation of your personality. They both told you the lake dried up because of evaporation due the hot sun of climate change. And you believed them.

Let’s take a step aside with a question. How did you learn anything, to tie your shoes, the ABC, use a toilet and wipe your bum, anything and everything you know, was taught to you.

This means, there is very little that a human being knows that they have not been taught or shown in some way.

Now we get to the core of the problem. It’s not what you know, but what you do not know, that gets you into trouble.

So when you think you are flawed in any way, that brings with it the acceptance as truth of a big lie, which is: What you know about anything is correct and that you have been taught a complete knowledge of how to be a good human being.

If no one ever taught you how to tie your shoe laces, which I hear is a problem now since kids shoes have velcro instead of laces, and you are 10 years old and cannot tie your own shoe laces, going into a school where all the other kids can tie their shoe laces, how will you feel about yourself? How will everyone else feel about you?

Let’s start with how others think and feel about you. Stupid moron. That would sum it up, and I think everyone would agree that a bunch of 10 year olds finding a new classmate cannot tie his or her shoe laces is a bit of a moron, assuming there is no obvious physical or mental defect.

So now I ask you another question. Who is the real stupid person in this scenario?

Certainly not the child, nor the other children. It’s the child’s educators. They are the stupid people, who failed to teach the basic skills of life to their child. But before we condemn the parents, let’s examine the possibilities for their failure.

Maybe it’s because they also do not know how to tie their shoe laces. Maybe they grew up and live on a small island where the only shoes for the past centuries are flip-flops. If that is the case, then you cannot blame the child nor the parents since none of them have ever seen shoes with laces.

Being an exceptional human being is like being a nuclear physicist or expert in quantum mechanics, you need a lot of training from a very young age to lead you up to being able to understand the complexities of these topics. I know, because in my 50’s I took a few courses on quantum mechanics, but since I only finished high school and never had a physics class in my life, being able to follow the math was just beyond my ability.

As complex as quantum mechanics may be, it’s nothing compared to being an exceptional human being, because it only requires accumulating new information. But being exceptional requires not only learning information about being human, which NO ONE is teaching you, but also requires you to overcome natural animal instincts.

Another question for you ponder is: What is the most base trait of a human being?

The need to conserve energy expressed as being lazy and a powerful desire to stay the same. Humans, despite their claims, do not want to change. Please do a little observation of anyone you know, or go into one of those big ashrams and talk to the disciples of these big name gurus and ask two questions; ‘How long have you been a disciple?’ And; ‘What has significantly changed in your life and personality?’

You may need to talk to people who have known that person for many years to get an honest answer to the second question, as I am sure you know that people rarely will tell the truth about such a personal question because they do not want to admit that they wasted all those years.

Then ask yourself one question about their answers; ‘Are the results they have achieved worthy of the time and effort, and probably money, they spent?’ The obvious answer will result in being, the teacher simply either does not know, or did not teach, the whole and complete truth about how you became what you are and how to change.

The bottom line and cure for your self deprecation is to accept the truth about humans that:

1 Humans, including yourself, have a natural animal instinct to avoid change.
2 Everything you know is something you have been taught, which does NOT make it correct.
3 What you do not know is because no one ever taught you that information or you never encountered the way to achieve what you seek.
4 There is nothing wrong with you other than a lack of knowledge and information.
5 Find the truth about yourself, and you can see that by finding the truth about humans in general through objective observation WITHOUT the filter of ideas you have heard about everyone being good or pure etc. Look objectively based on actions. Then seek out someone who has achieved the qualities you seek to have and do anything it takes to get them to teach you.

Two caveats are first; they must have achieved what you seek, and you have to test them to be certain that it is true and not a false facade, and the second is; if they charge a lot of money and make teaching their business and a source of income, then you should not waste a moment or dollar on them because a truly developed individual has only one goal left, which is to help everyone else become better than they actually are without limiting their students to people with money.