When I was in Africa and went on safari, we are instructed to never reach our arm out of the vehicle, but for sure, never get out of the vehicle until the guide says it is safe.
It was amazing how wild lions and leopards and elephants will come right up to the vehicle, but never touch it, or us, even though we would be a tasty meal.
The reason is that animals see the vehicle and everyone in it as one big animal with strange legs and arms, so they never attack. They don’t understand that we are delicious food sitting inside a metal thing that could be easily grabbed like a cookie out of the box.
When it comes to relationships, humans are not any better than these animals. We look at someone and find them attractive or not based on their cloths, makeup and hairstyle.
We do not see the person inside the body or the decoration of the body. We fall for the package and then in time, when we get the wrapping off and wake up without makeup or styled hair and sexy clothing, eventually lose interest.
Just like the animals who do not think further than what they see, we see the cloths as the actual person. When you get the cloths off, and find them to be fat or bad skin or the wig is removed etc, you do not find them attractive and then say they are not the person you thought they are.
Thinking about this, you should ask yourself; who is really at fault when the interest for another person fades or dies off? What really drew you to that person? Do you want to live with the person, or their cloths closet?
Our feelings and desires are usually based on the illusionary appearance and not the reality of the person. The advantage the animals have is that they see what they are getting, no beauty salon intervention.
We are not any different than animals who do not have a reasoning capacity, but we imagine we are better and so, the belief in a lie, which is that you are falling for a person when in fact you are falling for a mannequin, is the lie that ends in disappointment.
Then you blame the other person for not being who you thought they were. Who is the real fool? The one who puts on the costume, or the one who knows it is a costume but believes it’s the real skin.
Have fun, play dress-up, but remember always that what your eyes see is just a gift wrap, but what you are getting is the what’s inside the wrapper and go straight to get to know that.
If you post pictures that are totally retouched, covered in makeup, made to drop 20 kilos, and then when you meet, it’s just a one date and over, don’t blame the other person for feeling deceived.
Our workshops (posted on my new website davidsamuelcloud.com )on Relationships are about becoming the type of person that shines and glows from the inside, making everyone see you rather than just the packaging.
Real love is a combination of admiration and respect.
If you want to find real love, and have a lasting relationship, make your priority to become the person who people want to look at and don’t know why, but there is something about you that is different, attractive, and makes them want to know you better.
You will get three things from our workshops. First, that you become the person people want to be with, Second, that you will see the truth about other people, and Third, you will no longer have fears and inhibitions about yourself or others, you will have strong self-confidence and self-esteem.
That is the real power and key to finding a love like I had, 12 years of affectionate playfulness every day and night, without one moment of anger or a single fight, until death did us part.
My personal goal for my life is to see as many people be as happy together as we were.
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